If New Things Intimidate You or Your Partner... If you want to spice things up in the bedroom, but are afraid of freaking out your partner add sex-toy shopping to your next date night. Visit a sex toy boutique like Babeland or shop online together. This will help your partner feel like a part of the process. "Pick out some new toys that will help you try new things and discover new sensations," Cavanah says. Remember, novelty is key, and a new, arousing sensation could be exactly what you're lacking.
While you should always respect your personal limits (especially in the bedroom), challenge yourself and your partner to step outside your comfort zones, and try something new together for the first time. "That could be something like a vibrator you wear during sex, a blindfold and wrist restraints, lube, a massage candle, an anal toy -- whatever," Cavanah says. "Let your imagination take you there."
If trying new things makes you a tad uneasy (we totally get it), whip out the pen and paper (just let your partner know this is the fun kind of to-do list). "A yes, no and maybe list is a great tool for communication," Cavanah says. "It's a list of all sorts of sex acts from the very mild to the more intense." The idea is each partner creates their own sex wish list and then shares it with each other. The cherry on top? Depending on the size of your combined list, you may have a different "yes" and "maybe" to try every night.
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