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20 Secrets to Getting People to Like You

These tiny tweaks are the secrets behind making everyone want to friend you on Facebook and in real life
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Ask for a Favor
Doing things for others makes people feel good -- that's a scientific fact. When you ask someone for a favor, you're giving him or her the opportunity to feel great about themselves, which they'll associate with your interaction.

Just make sure it's a small favor. Asking to borrow a pen is more likely to win you friendship than asking to borrow a car.

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Mirror Them
Taking on similar hand gestures and body stances is a subtle way to show another person you are in agreement with them.

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Laugh at Their Jokes
The trick to getting people to like you is making people feel understood. There's no quicker way to show someone you're on the same page than laughing at their joke.

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Be Generally Enthusiastic
People prefer being happy to being sad, so they naturally gravitate toward people who point out the good things about life. Instead of complaining about the weather (often a go-to topic of conversation between people who don't know each other well), mention how great it is that the dry spell is over.

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Reveal Yourself
There's a reason Jennifer Lawrence is the most well-liked woman of Hollywood: She exposes her flaws. We love her not because she won an Oscar, but because she tripped on her way up to accepting it.

Likewise, you need to drop the facade if you want to get people to like you. Reveal something embarrassing or funny about yourself, and people are more likely to trust you.

Everyone wants to be liked. From the day we start school to the day we enter the workforce, we yearn for approval. Even the most cynical types secretly care about how they are received. If you don't believe that, science backs it up. Psychologist Abraham Maslow points out that humans are social creatures; we need each other to survive. As a result, the need to feel love and belonging are programmed into our DNA.

Feeling accepted and having people like you is the first step to making friends, and research shows that friendship is crucial to living a long, healthy life. In one study, researchers found that being socially isolated is as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.

In a time when much of our social interaction takes place behind screens, it can be exhausting to figure out how to turn on the charm. But with just a few simple tweaks, you can win people over instantly -- and, since studies show that those with meaningful friendships have a 50 percent higher chance of survival than those without, these tips could add years to your life. Here, the secrets to getting people to like you.
BY EMILY WOODRUFF | MAY 31, 2016 | SHARES
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