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20 Secrets to Getting People to Like You

These tiny tweaks are the secrets behind making everyone want to friend you on Facebook and in real life
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Ask for Advice
Studies show that in the workplace, seeking advice is one of the best ways to influence people. It suggests that you value that person's opinion, which makes them feel important. Also, confiding in someone about a problem makes you appear vulnerable -- meaning you're a friend, not a threatening foe.

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Match Your Body Language to Your Words
People like other people most when their words are non-judgmental and positive -- and your body language should reflect the same. When there's a disconnect between your words and your body language, people regard you as insincere. The best stance to convey openness and agreeability:

-Keep your palms up and open. This signals that you're open to what they have to say.

-Smile. It develops trust.

-Keep your body angled towards the person. Don't cross your arms or legs -- this suggests that you're closed off.



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Ask a Question Instead of Giving an Order
Studies show that asking a question when you need something elicits the same response as giving an order -- and without the attitude you'll get from ordering someone around.

Instead of telling a coworker, "I need an answer from you by 3 p.m. today," ask, "Do you think you can get me an answer by 3 p.m.? It'd be a huge help."

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Tilt Your Head
This tip goes back to cave people days. Tilting your head while conversing with someone is a way of showing that you're yielding power. It exposes your carotid, signaling that you're not posing a threat. It also tells people that you're interested in what they have to say.

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Ask for a Favor
Doing things for others makes people feel good -- that's a scientific fact. When you ask someone for a favor, you're giving him or her the opportunity to feel great about themselves, which they'll associate with your interaction.

Just make sure it's a small favor. Asking to borrow a pen is more likely to win you friendship than asking to borrow a car.

Everyone wants to be liked. From the day we start school to the day we enter the workforce, we yearn for approval. Even the most cynical types secretly care about how they are received. If you don't believe that, science backs it up. Psychologist Abraham Maslow points out that humans are social creatures; we need each other to survive. As a result, the need to feel love and belonging are programmed into our DNA.

Feeling accepted and having people like you is the first step to making friends, and research shows that friendship is crucial to living a long, healthy life. In one study, researchers found that being socially isolated is as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.

In a time when much of our social interaction takes place behind screens, it can be exhausting to figure out how to turn on the charm. But with just a few simple tweaks, you can win people over instantly -- and, since studies show that those with meaningful friendships have a 50 percent higher chance of survival than those without, these tips could add years to your life. Here, the secrets to getting people to like you.
BY EMILY WOODRUFF | MAY 31, 2016 | SHARES
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