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How to Defend Against Diet Bullies

Learn how to keep your diet and friendships intact with these diet tips
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The Diet Shamer
Cool girls don't diet. Cool girls eat greasy cheeseburgers chased with fries covered in gravy, all washed down with a giant soda. Cool girls don't care about Weight Watchers, lean protein or Nutribullets. Or so your diet-shaming friend will have you thinking when she rolls her eyes after you turn down her chili dog. This friend makes you feel bad for even thinking about switching out your Cheetos for celery, and makes it known that it's totally uncool to be concerned with food choices.

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The Diet Shamer: How to Defend
The next time your friend smirks at your salad order, try your hardest not to punch her in her naturally skinny throat. Instead, nutritionist Paula Simpson, RNCP, and Alexis Conason, a licensed psychologist specializing in body image, suggest switching out the word "diet," which most people associate negatively, for "mindful eating." Which is all well and good ... if Gwyneth Paltrow is your BFF. The Diet Shamer will never let you live that one down. Try this: Instead of meeting up with her for meals, make her your go-to friend for another activity, like manicures, movies or even hiking -- you'll be the one smirking when her sodas and Snickers can't get her through a few miles on the trail.

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The Unsolicited Dessert Pusher
This diet bully is often disguised as a benevolent baker. She's always sending out an office email with the subject, "Treats in the Kitchen." In her spare time, she trolls Pinterest for new, impossibly difficult confectionary challenges, and she never misses a chance to unload 24 cupcakes on you for your birthday. Or Valentine's Day. Or Friday.

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The Unsolicited Dessert Pusher: How to Defend
This person's heart is probably in the right place -- food is often a way to communicate or find common ground, so it could be her way of forging a friendship, explains Conason. If it's a coworker, leave the treats in the break room and ask her to go on an after-lunch walk instead (research shows a 15-minute walk can curb cravings, meaning you won't make a beeline for the treats when you get back to the office). If it's a friend, make sure she's aware that you're watching what you eat. Mentioning something about how much easier it is to resist sweets when they're out of sight will keep her from loading you down with sweets. Plus, if she knows you're eating healthier, she may try to do the same, which will make your goal that much easier. Researchers call it positive peer pressure -- when friends mirror each other's eating habits. Just make sure you're the one setting the trend.

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The Partier With a Penchant for Pub Grub
You know the drill. Your 5 p.m. Friday happy hour turns in to a three-day bender when you're hanging out with this party lady. A hefty amount of two-for-one margs, 3 a.m. Taco Bell runs and a couple of day-drinking episodes later, the details are hazy, but one thing is clear: Your diet is as completely wrecked as you were.

Whether it's splitting a pizza over episodes of "The Bachelor," going on late night fro-yo runs after a long day, or nursing a hangover together at your favorite brunch spot, food plays a huge part in our friendships. The operative word being huge, since new research suggests your friends are making you fat.

Just how fat? Well, that depends on the friend. Alexis Conason, a licensed psychologist specializing in body image, and nutritionist Paula Simpson, RNCP, gave us some advice for when you come up against the most dangerous kind of diet bullies: Your friends.
BY EMILY WOODRUFF | FEB 6, 2015 | SHARES
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